So, before any assume this is a joke, let me assure you it’s not. It’s a question stemming from real life experience, and one I’d like to ‘anonymously’ gather opinions on.
I’ve been doing a beginner’s yoga class for about three weeks now, and I’d noticed early on that there were potential pitfalls for any guy in that type of environment. However, yoga was highly recommended as a way to strengthen my back and start burning some fat. (I was injured in Iraq, and a nasty side effect of the ‘treatment’ was gaining roughly 80lbs and about ten percent body fat.)
Well, a few weeks went fine, and then it happened, the unintentional, chemical erection. Luckily we were doing some seated maneuvers and I was able to regain composure without causing a ruckus, but it’s put a fear in my mind.
How would it be perceived for a man to be spotted with an erection in the middle of a Yoga class? Would the group be mostly mature about it, realizing that it’s a hard thing to stop when some of those positions are being assumed by the finer sex? Or would it be perceived as an act of perversion?
I’ve worked out in the gym most of my life and have seldom run into this situation, and when I did it was as easy as changing my workout schedule. Alas, this particular class is only offered the once.
What’s the verdict? Should I seek another, more male centered yoga class (That’s an odd statement to make, considering in one light the one I’m in now is extremely male centered.)? Or should I continue to go, using self control as much as possible, and hoping nature doesn’t over rule me in a more awkward pose?
Let me again state, this is a serious question, I’d appreciate sincere, adult answers. And please do give me the benefit of the doubt, I am not going to yoga for any other reason than to get a good, joint friendly workout.
I’m going to be absolutely honest, and I hope it doesn’t make you upset or offend you. Like the first answerer, I’d also personally divert my attention – but it would probably make me uncomfortable, regardless. I wouldn’t think it perverted at all, I’d just get self-conscious and wonder what ’set you off’.
In my experience, most women wouldn’t even hint that they’ve noticed, during the session. But also in my experience, women talk – a lot. After the class you might be the center of many gossip sessions. It is times like these that make me a bit embarassed to be a woman. I personally hate gossip and all that goes along with it, but it’s virtually inevitable when women come together.
If you don’t mind this kind of talk, I would encourage you to stay with the class. Like you say, it is in your best interest to participate in yoga, and these people you are taking the class with are unlikely to be part of your everyday life, beyond the class. You seem more concerned with your classmates’ comfort; I’m more concerned for yours. I honestly can’t imagine anyone actually being upset-it’s nature! I can only imagine the chatter.
That being said, interest (gossip) will wane relatively quickly. After they notice, they’ll chat, get it out of their system, and my bet would be it’s old news after a couple more classes.
I think you should continue to go and benefit from this. I don’t think anyone will be offended. A little initial uncomfortable awkwardness might be in store, but it’s basic nature and everyone knows it. You might get sympathy, pity, humor, diverted attention, but I really doubt you’ll get anyone thinking you’re a pervert.
As a woman, I appreciate reading this sort of post. It shows your respect for women, and I’m sure it shows in your actions. Thank you!
I wish you the best of luck with your classes, and I hope you can enjoy them.
By the way – women gossip constantly. Even if they do end up noticing and talking about it, their attention is short and you aren’t going to be giant headline news. Something else will come up, and they’ll move on.
My back has started hurting again and yoga really helped lessen aches and pains, not to mention helped a lot with stress, and I have been feeling stressed 24/7 lately. Well, if anyone has some great dvd recommendations please let me know! Thanks!